Making New Friends

Everyone worries about making new friends at a new school. Maybe you feel like no one can compare to the friends you have now. Maybe you think you are too shy to meet anybody new. Maybe you just don't know how to go about it. The good news is that there are plenty of things you can do to make meeting new friends a lot easier.

  • Get out there. Look for ways to get to know other kids and get involved. Go to the youth center and sign up for a group activity or an afterschool club. Once you are surrounded by kids with the same interests as you, you'll find it easier to make friends.
  • Take the first step. Don't wait for people to talk to you, just smile, say hi, and start things! Other kids may be just as shy or scared as you are, so think about things you can say to start a conversation. Ask about school, music, fashion, sports, or something you know you're both interested in.
  • Take your time. You don't have to have a whole new set of friends on the first day of school. Remember, you can be friendly with a lot of people, and friends with the kids you really get to know and have a lot in common with. It's okay to sit back and observe everyone at first to see where you think you fit best.
  • Be yourself. You are a great person and to make new friends, you have to let others see who you really are. Don't try to act like someone you aren't. Sooner or later people will see that you're just acting! Be yourself and you'll make new friends in no time.
  • Make a list of the things that you're looking for in a friend. Are you looking for someone who is kind? Someone who will always stand up for you? Someone you can trust? Once you know what you're looking for in a friend, try to find the person who best fits that description.
  • Don't make comparisons. It's easy to compare your last home, school, or friends to where you are now and think, "Things were so much better there." Instead, make the best of where you are and be positive.

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