9 Tips for Reuniting With a Deployed Spouse

Your spouse's deployment return can bring both joys and challenges. These tips can help:

  • Plan a special homecoming. You might want to make a welcome-home banner or a special meal.
  • Make a back-up plan, just in case. Your spouse may be exhausted, so be ready to adjust your plans if you need to.
  • Understand that it's normal to feel out of sync with your spouse at first. Both of you have grown and changed during the separation.
  • Ease into intimacy. It's not easy to regain physical and emotional closeness after stressful situations.
  • Be patient with yourself and your spouse. Fatigue, confusion, and worry can lead to short tempers.
  • Spend time talking together. Sometimes it's easier to reconnect if you talk while doing something else together, like taking a walk or working out.
  • Expect your children to test the rules now that both parents are home. Set aside time with your spouse to come up with an approach you both agree on.
  • Enjoy life. Make time in your schedule for activities you enjoy as a couple and as a family.
  • Know when to seek help. If you, your spouse, or other family members are feeling signs of stress, physical or emotional, it's important to seek expert help - the earlier the better. Contact your installation's Family Support Center, a Veterans Affairs Vet Center at (877) 927-8387, or Military OneSource at (800) 342-9647.


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