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A little jealousy is normal, even in the healthiest relationships. You might feel twinges of it if your partner seems more devoted to work than to you, or when a former love interest comes up in conversation. However, excessive jealousy can be a red flag of controlling and unhealthy behavior. Learn how to distinguish between typical and excessive jealously and behavior that could escalate into abuse.
The importance of trust
Trust is an important part of a fulfilling and safe relationship. Although trust builds over the course of a relationship, trust between two people can suffer when there are unresolved feelings of jealousy.
How you and your partner deal with jealousy is crucial to maintaining trust and avoiding more serious problems. Some healthy ways to deal with jealousy are to:
- Take inventory of your relationship on a regular basis: What are your strengths and weaknesses?
- Confront sensitive issues or problems honestly, no matter how painful and scary
- Learn how to effectively manage anger
- Work on your communication as a couple
- Consider a marriage enhancement program
- Understand the elements of a healthy relationship
When jealousy is unhealthy
Jealousy becomes unhealthy when it starts to define a relationship. For example, it’s a problem when you or your partner become preoccupied with jealous thoughts and constantly worry about losing the relationship. This kind of intense jealousy can lead to controlling or violent behavior as one partner tries to control the other in an attempt to feel more secure in the relationship. Some red flags of excessive jealousy include:
Recognize these unhealthy relationship behaviors?
Military OneSource counselors can help.
- Trying to keep your partner from spending time with others
- Spying on your partner
- Looking through your partner’s belongings
- Insisting on knowing every detail of your partner’s activities
- Constantly asking questions about past relationships
- Threatening or intimidating your partner
- Becoming physically violent
Getting help
If jealousy is a problem in your relationship, you don’t have to manage the situation on your own. Help is available for you and your partner. A professional counselor can provide individual counseling to help you sort through your feelings, or work with you as a couple to rebuild trust. Find confidential, non-medical counseling through:
- Military OneSource at 800-342-9647
- Your installation Family Advocacy Program (visit MilitaryINSTALLATIONS for contact information).
If you’re fearful for your safety or if your relationship has become abusive, there are people who can help you get safe and stay safe.
- Contact your installation Family Advocacy Program or find a domestic abuse victim advocate by calling Military OneSource at 800-342-9647 or click here for overseas calling options.
- Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233) for help with safety planning, and finding resources and services in your community.
Reach out for the support you need; and learn more about how to keep yourself healthy and safe.
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