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Signs of Child Abuse

The Department of Defense and the Family Advocacy Program are committed to promoting the well-being of children and families by addressing and preventing child abuse and neglect.

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An estimated 1 in 4 children have experienced abuse or neglect at some point in their lives. This abuse most often occurs at home. It is typically committed by those well known to the child – parents, relatives, babysitters and family friends.

The good news is that child abuse and neglect can be prevented. You can do your part to keep military children safe and secure by:

What is child abuse and neglect?

The DOD defines child abuse and neglect as:

  • Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker that results in death, serious physical injury, emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation
  • An act or failure to act that presents an imminent risk of serious harm

Child abuse generally falls into one of these categories:

  • Neglect includes the failure to provide for a child’s basic physical, emotional, medical or educational needs. For example, if a parent or caregiver withholds food from their child as a punishment for misbehaving, it is neglect.
  • Physical abuse includes any behavior that involves the use of force to harm a child, such as punching, kicking, biting, shaking, throwing, stabbing, choking or burning.
  • Sexual abuse involves any contact with a child of a sexual nature. This includes physical touch involving a sexual body part belonging to the child or the caregiver. It also includes forcing a child to look at a caregiver’s sexual body parts or intentionally exposing them to explicitly sexual material. It is important to remember that children cannot legally consent to any sexual activity.
  • Emotional abuse includes a pattern of verbal and nonverbal behaviors that have a negative effect on the child’s psychological well-being. These include constant criticism, threats, humiliation and rejection. It can also include a parent or caregiver intentionally withholding affection.

Know the risk factors associated with child abuse and neglect

Experts have identified common factors that may increase the risk for child abuse or neglect occurring.

At the individual level, parents who have a history of adverse childhood experiences, including experiencing abuse or neglect, may be more likely to similarly mistreat their own children. This is because abuse is often a learned behavior, and our earliest experiences can have a big impact on our future relationships.

Other factors that may increase the risk of parents abusing or neglecting their children are a lack of knowledge of child development and the absence of a support system. Parents who are younger, and perhaps less prepared to become parents, may need additional support to build healthy and nurturing relationships with their children.

Also, parents who struggle with alcohol and other drug addictions are at risk of exposing their children to dangerous substances and may be less likely to provide for their safety.

At the family level, parents who are under particular stress, such as financial insecurity, may be at a higher risk of neglecting their children. Times of uncertainty or crisis can lead to higher risk. For example, adults who do not have effective coping skills may take out their anxiety on their children or partner by yelling, screaming or hitting. Parents with a history of relationship violence, with one parent abusing the other, may be at risk for exposing their children to domestic abuse, which can have a long-term impact on their social and emotional development.

At the community level, the level of risk increases if community members in general are unaware of the signs of abuse or don’t know who to call if they suspect abuse.

Know the signs of child abuse and neglect

A child who is being abused or neglected may feel guilty, ashamed or confused. They may be afraid to tell someone, especially if the person harming them is a parent, sibling, other relative or a family friend. Learn the indicators of child abuse and neglect and how to teach your child about healthy body boundaries.

Children who seem afraid of their parents, older youth, an adult caregiver or a family friend may be experiencing abuse or neglect. Red flags may include when a child:

  • Shows sudden changes in behavior or school performance
  • Has not received help for physical or medical problems brought to the parents’ attention
  • Has learning difficulties, or trouble focusing, that cannot be attributed to specific physical or psychological causes
  • Is always watchful, as though preparing for something bad to happen
  • Seems to always lack adult supervision
  • Has unexplained burns, bites, bruises, broken bones or black eyes
  • Has fading bruises or other marks noticeable following an absence from school
  • Seems frightened of their parent or caregiver and protests or cries when it is time to go home from a playdate, school or other activity
  • Is abusive toward pets or other animals

How you can help

Reporting child abuse only takes a minute, but it also takes courage and a commitment to keeping children healthy and safe. If you’re concerned about a child or family, but aren’t sure whether abuse is occurring, err on the side of safety.

Reporting provides the opportunity to prevent or stop abuse and enables the family to get the help they need. Everyone has a moral obligation and, in many cases, a legal responsibility to take action to end child abuse and neglect.

Depending on the situation and your state requirements, you may report child abuse or neglect to one or more of the following organizations:

Strong communities strengthen families. Parents, caregivers and community members can help by being informed, attentive and supportive of children. To learn more about child abuse, read “What is Child Abuse?”

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