Gold Star & Surviving Family Members

Your service member has died, but that doesn't mean you have lost your ties to your military community. As a surviving family member of an active duty service member, you may be eligible for beneficial services that can help you cope, and support you in rebuilding your life and finding your new normal. The Department of Defense provides immediate and long-term assistance to help you with understanding your benefits, connecting you with grief counseling, finding a financial counselor so you may plan your financial future and more. You're not alone.

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Help When You Need It

If you are feeling distressed about the recent events in Afghanistan, you have access to free, confidential support via our non-medical counseling services.

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Online Military Memorial Pays Tribute to Service Members

The Department of Defense’s Military In Lasting Tribute memorial honors and remembers service members who died while serving honorably on active duty from 1985 to the present. It is the only DOD memorial to include peacetime deaths.

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Making the Final Move

Whether you are hesitant or ready to move after the death of you loved one, it is helpful to understand the housing options and moving benefits available to survivors – as well as some practical steps to take – that may assist your move when the day comes.

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Gold Star and Surviving Family Member Representatives

The National Defense Authorization Act 2014, Section 633, requires each secretary of a military department to designate a specific member to assist spouses and other dependents of service members, including Reserve Components, who die on active duty.

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Honoring Gold Star Families

Gold star families – spouses, children, parents, siblings or others whose loved one died in service to our nation – are a vital part of the nation’s military community and history.

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Death Gratuity Benefit Explained

The death gratuity, which provides a financial bridge for survivors who have lost a loved one in military service, is often misunderstood. This article explains the benefit and its history.


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