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Physical Abuse

Overview

Relationships can be challenging, especially with the added stress of military life. No relationship is perfect, but it’s important to recognize the warning signs of abuse, which don’t always appear overnight.

Each person’s situation is different, but help is available. The Family Advocacy Program supports active-duty service members, their spouses, partners and families. Its mission is to prevent adult-initiated abuse, ensure victims’ safety and provide support for those impacted by abuse through advocacy, counseling and educational services that promote healthy relationships and parenting.

Chat With a Victim Advocate

Find help for domestic abuse from the victim advocate closest to you by using the Domestic Abuse Victim Advocate Locator — whether you’re in the United States or overseas.


What is physical abuse?

Physical abuse is a form of domestic abuse. The War Department describes domestic abuse as a pattern of behavior resulting in emotional or psychological abuse, economic control or interference with personal liberty that is directed toward a person who is a:

  • Current or former spouse
  • Person with whom the abuser shares a child
  • Current or former intimate partner with whom the alleged abuser shares or has shared a common domicile
  • Person who is or has been in a social relationship of a romantic or intimate nature with the alleged abuser

According to the Department of Justice, physical abuse could include refusing a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon them. Other forms of physical abuse might involve:

  • Strangling, hitting, kicking, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting
  • Hurting pets or children
  • Denial of food and sleep
  • Hair pulling
  • Burning
  • Threatening violence
  • Controlling medication

How to get help

If you are mistreated by your partner, don’t be ashamed. It’s not your fault, and you’re not alone.

FAP supports victims, service members and military families impacted by domestic abuse. Family Advocacy Program staff can help at any stage of a relationship. Victims decide how much of their experience to share and the level of support they want and FAP will tailor tools and resources to assist.

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Connect with FAP.

If you are seeking help because of domestic abuse, FAP can assist and connect you with helpful resources. Learn more about FAP and find information about safety and prevention.

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Connect with free, confidential counseling.

Military OneSource and Military and Family Life Counseling provide free, short-term, confidential counseling services for issues ranging from marital conflicts to coping with grief and deployment adjustments.

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Chat with an advocate from the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

You can talk by phone or chat online with a victim advocate, who will keep your conversation confidential and help you identify your choices.

Help is also available if you’re concerned about your own behavior.

If you’re concerned about your own behavior and want to talk with someone, the Family Advocacy Program offers relationship education, coping strategies and counseling to help you communicate your needs constructively and manage stress. It is always better, and safer, to seek support early, before a situation occurs. Find a Family Advocacy Program near you to connect with local support, counseling and services.

Military OneSource can also assist — especially after hours — to connect an individual potentially exhibiting abusive behaviors until a FAP counselor can provide responsive services.

Note: Even though FAP conversations are confidential for most prevention and education support, clinicians must report ongoing, active incidents of abuse to command and law enforcement. FAP staff are mandated reporters, and any suspected or reported child abuse will be referred to local child protective services.


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