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Support After Loss


You were part of the military family when you supported your service member in their mission. And you’re part of the family now … and forever. That’s why the services have designed programs especially for survivors — tools and services to help you cope, make informed decisions, grieve in healthy ways and begin to envision a life with new opportunities.

Connect with support networks

Each branch of the military offers a Casualty Assistance program that provides long-term support to surviving families of deceased service members. You will be assigned a case manager, or casualty assistance officer, who can assist you with support groups, grief counseling, benefit assistance and financial counseling.

Speak with your Gold Star and Surviving Family Member Representative

You can also speak to your service’s Gold Star and Surviving Family Member Representative, who is designated to assist spouses and other dependents of service members who die on active duty. These representatives provide support and address concerns regarding casualty assistance and survivor benefits.

Access free, confidential counseling

The Defense Department offers free and confidential non-medical counseling for eligible surviving family members of service members who die on active duty. Call Military OneSource 24/7 to schedule grief and bereavement counseling for survivors via face-to-face, phone, online or video counseling sessions.


Join a support or action group

Many other organizations offer support for surviving family members. “The Days Ahead” provides a list of organizations you may want to consider.

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