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Most children thrive with routine. Military living is full of change and uncertainty, and maintaining routines can help children feel grounded and secure. Children crave the sense of control that comes from knowing what to expect, especially with regard to sleeping and eating. Routines are especially important during unsettling change and for children who have difficulty with transitions.
As you explore establishing routines, consider the basics. Try to establish regular meal and homework times and set aside time each day for physical activity. Schedules and routines help establish expectations and create a calmer household by reducing the stress and anxiety associated with unpredictability.
Creating routines
Establishing routines for your family doesn’t mean scheduling every hour of the day in 10-minute blocks or adding to your already busy life. It means establishing more order around things you already do, like feeding your kids or putting them to bed. Here are some suggestions to help you create achievable routines:
- Keep routines simple. Start with the basics — a predictable mealtime, homework routine bedtime ritual.
- Be realistic. If you get home from work at 6 p.m., a 7 p.m. bedtime probably isn’t achievable. Think carefully about your and your family’s schedule to guide your timing, including meals, bath time and reading together before bedtime.
- Be patient. Routines require practice and time for your child to get used to them. Adjust expectations and be patient.
- Try to have meals together as a family whenever possible. When doable, aim to have everyone eat at the same time. Get your child involved and make mealtime run more smoothly by having your child set the table or do another pre-meal task.
- Ease into nap time and bedtime. There’s no on-off switch on your child. Gradually wind down by doing a diaper change, bathroom trip, bath or stories to help them slow down. Older children also benefit from quiet routine before bedtime. Put your devices to sleep as well. Studies show that eliminating blue light exposure a couple of hours before bedtime aids in a restful night’s sleep.
- Keep the same general structure. Use the same sequence of events at nighttime – for example, bath-pajamas-stories-sleep – to avoid delay tactics and other games. Try to keep the weekend routine similar to the weekday as far as snacks and naps.
Maintaining routines
Sticking to your routine may take a bit of discipline on your part. Use these tips to help you stay the course:
- Remind yourself that your child looks forward to certain routines. Your child relies on predictability for a feeling of security.
- Well-established routines can help your child adjust during challenging times. It will be easier for your child to manage deployments, moves or a new sibling if there is comfort and security with respect to schedules.
- Keep your routines simple. The more complex the routine, the harder it will be to maintain. It’s better for your child to have a few expectations that are met than several things that are not consistently achieved.
- It’s okay to shake up the elements of the routine. Let your partner or someone else run the bedtime routine once in a while so your child gets used to others handling the duty. This will come in handy if you’re deployed or if you use a babysitter.
- Be flexible. Your routine may need to be adjusted occasionally because of things outside of your control, like holidays, vacations and daylight saving time.
- Don’t be afraid to adjust your routines. As your child grows, you will need to adjust elements of the routine to fit with your child’s changes. You might be able to ditch the nap, for instance, but you’ll need to create a new routine for homework. Make small adjustments that best fit your family’s changing schedule.
Check out Military OneSource for parenting-related information, tips and guidance to help your children and family build resilience. Call 800-342-9647 or schedule a live chat to speak with one of our consultants.
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