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Relationship Challenges and Divorce


Whether you’re trying to keep your relationship together through a trying time, or you’ve decided that ending your marriage is the best path forward, the road ahead may seem uncertain. As you move forward, remember that your decisions now may have a lasting effect on you and your family.

Access to free, confidential counseling is available

Help communicating with your partner may make all the difference in your relationship. You can access free, confidential, non-medical counseling services — for you or you and your partner together — through Military OneSource or via the Military and Family Life Counseling Program. Military OneSource non-medical counselors are available online, on the phone and in person, and child and youth behavioral health support services are available at your installation.

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Non-medical Counseling

Access free and confidential non-medical counseling.

Help with relationship challenges

Many resources are available to help you and your partner work through your relationship challenges.


Don’t ignore your physical and emotional health during difficult times

Keeping up with a fitness routine, eating a healthy diet and practicing self-care during difficult times can help reduce stress for you, your partner and your children.

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Military OneSource Health and Wellness Coaches

Take command of your well-being with free health and wellness coaching from Military OneSource.

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Recommended Wellness Apps

Check out these self-care apps developed within the Department of Defense, Veterans Affairs and other partners.

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Chill Drills App

De-stress and relax with these audio relaxation exercises developed especially for the military community.


Help for you and your family as you cope with divorce

Sesame Street’s Little Children, Big Challenges: Divorce

The Sesame Street Muppets and other tools help young children cope with and understand divorce and aids families in managing the impact of a tough transition.

How to Cope With a Breakup

Learn how to cope with a breakup by taking care of yourself, being honest about your needs and looking ahead.

The Phases of Relationship Breakups

There are common phases most people go through after a breakup. Knowing more about each phase can help you through the hurt.

Take benefits, finances and child custody into account

Military benefits including health benefits, moving costs, housing and more, will be affected by divorce. In addition, your finances and custody of your children will all have to be settled as your marriage ends. The military has legal and financial consultants to help navigate the process.

State law and local procedures largely govern divorce, but there are a few federal statutes and military regulations that may apply. You can access free military legal assistance to make sure you are abiding by the laws and rules.

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